It happens, it just happens

Today I have found out that if husbands die, wives have no privilege to cry.....I found it all myself at the death of my friend's father. Just like any other deaths..... normal in silence abnormal in emotions.The day just like any other one calm and quiet .We expected this to happen any day any time. But when the frozen better half was brought she could not make hold of her emotions.She bust out the feelings she compressed for the past two to three hours breaking the great silence which those who came managed to construct and enhance effectively. The whole world came around her just to tell "you are not supposed to cry here".What else is she expected to do , not to cry and then to what?Not to cry and that's all.She had to give up her freedom of expression to nothing.Would anything reveal her off her crying at that moment? I was a decent spectator...decent in all senses. Still one among the minority not allowing her not to cry.